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The teachings of Michael and Debi Pearl appear to be Biblical and logical on the surface, but research and experience has shown them to be otherwise. This web page is meant to be a clearing house of information and arguments against these teachings.  

I started this page in Sept of 2004 with my arguments against the Pearls' teachings, as well as my husband’s arguments and a few more arguments.  I then started adding as many links as I could find.  I have continued to add information as I find it.  I have now moved to a new, more organized website, by the grace of God, which you can find by clicking on the title above.  

Read about Sean Paddock, whose death was attributed to Pearl's training advice. His mother was found guilty and the case is now going to appeal.  Here another news story about the Pearls from April 2006.

Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz are now being charged with torture and murder after following Pearl’s training advice.  Here are some news stories:

Paradise parents face murder, torture charges  Feb 10, 2010

Ridge parents arraigned on murder  Feb 11, 2010

DA: Deadly Child Abuse Case Linked To "Biblical Chastisement"  Feb 12, 2010

DA links fundamentalist "training" to Paradise girl's death   Feb 12, 2010

Ramsey examines ministry connected to girl's death - Paradise Post  Feb 18, 2010

Parents Accused of Beating Child to Death -- Video  Feb 18, 2010

A huge difference between abuse and discipline  Feb 18, 2010

Godly discipline turned deadly  from Salon Feb 22, 2010

Child's death leads Christians to speak out against Michael and Debi Pearl   from Examiner Feb 25, 2010

Questions about ministry grow  from Paradise Post Feb 26, 2010

Is Conservative Christian Group, No Greater Joy Ministries, Pushing Parents to Beat Kids to Death?  from CBS News Crimesider 

Lydia Schatz 'Whipped' to Death on Feb. 6, 2010 from Suite101.com


Since that news broke, many Christians have taken a stand against the Pearls' teachings.  TulipGirl has done a great job of compiling these writings here.  She also emailed me a letter which you may send to your Homeschool Group Leader.

And here is my compilation of links:

March 3, 2010 - Responses to Pearl's response:

A Response To Michael Pearl by Muse Mama

No Laughing Matter: Michael Pearl & His Chicken Mock Critics  by Vyckie @ No Longer Quivering

Michael Pearl laughs at his critics, no apolgies for dead children from Mommy Life blog

The Pearls: Sadly, it has come to this...  from The Cappuccino Life

Pearl Laughing All the Way to the Bank  from Sweeping the Cobwebs

michael pearl’s response by Thatmom  Note: there are some very interesting comments in this one

In response to the Defense of  Pearl:

In defense of the Pearls…some thoughts  from Roscommon Acres A response to a blog defending Pearl


First Reactions:

Heartbroken. Angry. Again. By TulipGirl

This made me cry today… By Rebecca

Beauty for Ashes: in which I discuss the unthinkable  Laurie M., who is a friend of the Schatz family, describes  her heartbreak  from what happened to her dear Lydia and her horror at  discovering the Pearls' teachings.

In depth Analysis:

To Train Up A Child: An Examination of the Pearl Method by Rey Reynoso

Pearls ARE Swine (Part II) by Alex Bird (aka “dogemporer”)  Disclaimer: I do not agree with much that this site espouses, but this is such a good analysis of the Pearls' teachings that I had to include it.

Lydia The Child The Pearls Laugh At!  from Emotional Abuse and Your Faith

Is Michael Pearl Responsible For a Girl’s Death? by Matthew Raley

so does Michael Pearl bear any responsibility for the death of Lydia Schatz? by Thatmom

I Would Be Remiss... By Clara

I do not want to write this post  from It's Complicated

When Parenting Kills – What Can We Do? By Katiekind

Spanking in Anger isn’t the Problem Water Lilly explains why we can't just assume that the Schatzs were out of control.

In which I talk about the terrible event I mentioned 2 weeks ago  By Paul M, who knows the Schatzs, analyzes the Pearls' teachings and explains how wrong they are.

Hold ‘em Down, Defeat Totally  By TulipGirl, who explains exactly how the Pearls teachings caused this death

Time to Speak Up, Even if it's Hard from HomeSpun Life

No Greater Joy Children   New website analyzing NGJ teachings 

The brokenhearted sinner  By Aaron

Bring Back the Boycott! By Muse Mama

Fighting The Pearl's Teachings By Muse Mama

I am burning all books by the Pearls... and i encourage you to, too! by Sparrow's Nest Academy

Pearl Of Too Great a Price  by Matthew Raley

The Pearls, abuse and a false gospel From Roscommon Acres

How many children must die before Mike & Debi Pearl are held accountable? By Elizabeth Esther

To brainwash a parent From WORLDmag.com

The World's Most Dangerous People From Just Another Clay Pot

More Christians Speaking out against the Pearls’ Teachings  By Katiekind

Tragic Death of Lydia Schatz From Rutledge6

Senseless Deception  By Spunky

 Child Discipline or Child Abuse? by Virginia Knowles

Box Bashing by Karen Ehman

child abuse in the name of Jesus  by Thatmom

update on the Lydia Schatz case and why it is not about spanking  by Thatmom

Michael and Debi Pearls teaching linked to another child abuse death from Bene Diction Blogs On

I write this with a heavy heart  by Jennie Hall  (I really like this one because she does a great job of using his very words. Good for sharing with people who accuse you of not having read his works.)

Even a Child Can Recognize Injustice  from Wanna Walk Along?  Things your grandmother should have told you.

Home Education Magazine calls for us to Bring Back the Boycott!

No Greater Joy Ministries "Biblical" Parenting Couple Beats Child to Death from Peaceful Parenting

Hermeneutics, Life, and Death by Randy Greenwald, Pastor, Hope Presbyterian Church, Bradenton, Florida.

Tragedy in a homeschooling family  by Rob Shearer, Director of the Francis Schaeffer Study Center

Here are my links from before (and/or unrelated to) the tragedy:

Book Reviews of To Train Up A Child:

“To Train Up A Child” chapter by chapter review     by Wendy

“To Train Up A Child” Book Review From Allthings2all by Catez

To Train Up A Child?  book review from The Watchman's Bagpipes

Arguments against The Pearls' Teachings:

On The Pearls and Parenting by Tulipgirl

Michael and Debi Pearl's No Greater Joy Ministries: A Look at the Basics From Allthings2all by Catez

Michael Pearl on Original Sin: An Analysis From Allthings2all by Catez

Concerns about the Pearls A letter to a pastor By MarynMunchkins

Salon's article about The Pearls

Child abuse on the religious right - The Pearls from Bene Diction Blogs On

The Pearls Are Wrong   by Muse Mama

From the Gentle Christian Mothers Forums

Fundamental Baptists warning about No Greater Joy Ministries Caveat: I do not agree with everything in this article.

The Rod is a Means of Grace from Lutherama, shows how Pearl's teachings are incompatible with Lutheran theology

Christian Families on the Edge(Authoritarianism and Isolationism Among Us) From The Christian Research Institute

Arguments against Spanking:

Is Spanking Biblical? By Carol

Avoiding Millstones (An Open Letter to Those Who Advocate Spanking) by Rebecca Prewett

Spare The Rod, Spoil The Child? by Aurelia Ann

Thy Rod and Thy Staff...  By Jennie Hall

Biblical Discipline: Conclusions by Laura Moody who was a “Contact Mom” for GFI from January 1999 to August of 2000.

And the Bible Sayeth, Train up a Child in the Way He Should Go  by Dr. William Sears

10 reasons not to spank ( see especially #6) by Dr. William Sears 

Why We Don't Spank by William Sears, M.D., and Martha Sears, R.N.

Following Your Instincts by Mary Eakin

New Testiment Parenting by Sheryl Tribble

Crystal's Arms Of Love website.  You will find many good articles here.  Crystal is the author of Biblical Parenting, a book well worth reading.  

Boot Camp for Babies by Rebecca Prewett

Unprepared for Parenting from the Gentle Christian Mothers site.  

Disciplined by Grace by Dulce Chalé

Letter to a Pastor About Spanking by Carlos and Dulce Chalé

Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps

Get Off Your Butt Parenting

Parenting Freedom: Discipline

Christians For Nonviolent Parenting 

Chris's Anti-Spanking Web Site

A Jewish Rabbi teaches that parents should Never hit their children.  From  Jewish World Review

Samuel Martin, Religious Scholar, has written a book about Christians and the Spanking Controversy.  You can purchase it at his website or read the PDF at Carol's Parenting Freedom site.

If you are interested in reading "To Train Up A Child" and don't want to buy the book, you can read it at http://www.achristianhome.org/to_train_up_a_child.htm

Get Involved:

Bring Back the Boycott! By Muse Mama

Parenting in Jesus' Footsteps petition

Stop The Rod Petition

Responses to Created To Be His Helpmeet and other marital advice

Spunky's Blog entry about Created To Be His Helpmeet

The Pearls Respond to the Blogs by Spunky

"Created to Be His Help Meet" discussion

Today, I’ll let Mr. Pearl speak for himself… by Rebecca

I feel sorry for Debi and Michael Pearl!  from Emotional Abuse and Your Faith

Do you have anything which belongs on this site?  Please send any links or anything you have written to HermanaLindaV@Gmail.com.  I will not post anything without the author's permission.  Please also feel free to send me any advice or comments.

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